Ask HN: How to approach new people in 2026?

i recently read an article in the guardian about how casual conversations with strangers are becoming increasingly rare. the piece argued that smartphones and post-pandemic habits have made people less likely to interact with strangers in everyday places.

this made me think about my own situation. i have been fortunate to meet many great people through university and work, and i generally feel comfortable talking with people in those environments. but outside of structured settings it is a different story. i live in sweden, where approaching strangers in public is already culturally uncommon. it can feel even harder if you did not grow up here and do not already have established social circles. public spaces often feel socially “closed”. people are polite but tend to keep to themselves.

so i am curious how others approach this today. how do you meet new people outside of work or school in 2026? do you ever start conversations with strangers in public, and if so how? are there environments where this works better than others? for people living in more reserved cultures (like scandinavia), what strategies have worked for you? would love to hear what has worked for others.

:o)

3 points | by tavro 3 hours ago

4 comments

  • latexr 2 hours ago
    Right now on the front page: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=47142183

    Also interesting and somewhat related: https://pudding.cool/2025/06/hello-stranger/

    If you struggle with small talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRG-YubP1rw

    But to give a piece of advice not from a URL, is there any interest you have which other people may share and gather for? If you like games, for example, a local game shop is a good place to meet others. There’s usually always someone there, they tend to be welcoming to newcomers, and having something to do (play a game) can make you forget some of the awkwardness.

    • tavro 2 hours ago
      wow, this is really nice. thanks! :-)
      • muzani 1 hour ago
        Haha, my first thought was why didn't OP just read the comments on the article? Didn't occur to me that someone on HN was finding articles through a source other than HN :3
  • idontwantthis 13 minutes ago
    I love starting conversations with strangers. People usually love getting a genuine, non-creepy compliment. I think the key is to not force it into a conversation if they don't pick it up. Just leave off if they don't seem to want to continue talking.
  • journal 58 minutes ago
    No one wants to be approached.